BET Producer Kristen V. Carter
Celebrity Guest Blog post by BET producer Kristen V. Carter of Jazzi Dreamer Entertainment. You can reach Kristen Carter via Twitter.
On Sunday night, an old elementary school friend stopped by my house. When he entered my living room and plopped down on my couch, he didn’t really say much. I thought, “Great, someone that came over just to be over here. And damn it, the Grammys are about to come on!” I asked him, “Sooooo (yes that many O’s)…What’s up?” and he answered, “Ain’t Ish.” Now if you know me, you know that I HATE to hear things like this. My ears tingle and I start to twitch. He remained quiet afterwards and so I followed that up with, “Um, ok.
You seem kinda low energy, what’s going on?” Initially, I was pretty annoyed that someone would come over and bring their low energy with them but then I had to settle down my initial thoughts and just listen. He responded honestly, expressing his confusion about life and where to take his next step. Now, he is and always seemed very book smart. All of my friends are intelligent, but I spend alot of time thinking about my male friends from my childhood because alot of them seem to feel how this one expressed. They don’t know up from down, they don’t know what they wanna do, and they haven’t even pinned down what they LIKE to do. They gasp at the word “hobby.” They don’t even understand the concept. And unfortunately, in this world, this kind of epidemic is not accidental. Our young people are supposed to feel trapped and helpless and I CAN’T STAND IT!
I don’t even wanna get into where we went wrong cause then I’d be writing a thesis, but how can we get a hold to our young people? How can we help them navigate in this world?!?
More and more each day, I realize how different I am. I can’t even fully grasp just how set apart I am but my mother had a vision and did everything in her power to make sure I absorbed what I needed to succeed – and not just cope – with life. And I don’t mean that in a boastful way, but I mean that in a reflective way. Alot of adults had alot to say about my mother while I was growing up, and alot of peers had plenty to say about me being uncool and this and that. But, whoa nelly – how the tides turn, how priorities change, and how reality sets in!!!
We have to think about tomorrow and our futures. We can’t always live for the moment, the cheap thrill. We have to protect our minds and bodies from filth because you never know who’s trying to attach themselves to you. And it’s not always positive. We have to prepare our kids. It’s not cute to just be cute in high school. THAT MEANS NOTHING IN THE REAL WORLD! Who cares what clique you’re in and which girl/guy you are talking to? Or what clothes you have on? Our kids are so caught up in these images, they think things just fly out of the sky…What are our children being taught? What happened to the village? I know that you all are an extension of my village – and I’m so grateful for that! – but who’s reeling in our young people? When did the concept of neighbor become stranger? Did that happen in the 80s or the 90s cause I’m confused.
Success is never by accident. It takes preparation. We want Obama to make change, but we’ve gotta help ourselves as well. I don’t know folks…it’s a sad state of affairs but hopefully you and I can be a part of the positive turn in the lives of young people. Hopefully we can take someone by the hand and help at least one person. And I’m saying this I’m like old…lol…I know I still have alot to learn and experience in life as well, but I just hope that we can mobilize our village cause we’re here. We’re strong people. We’re positive people, maybe in small clusters but we’re here. I’d love to discuss/plan how we can make more of an impact in our community.
