Alesha attempts to confront Kori and Kori loses it on her sister’s boyfriend, Robert. Produced by Shirley Vernae Williams
On 04.06.10, In Current Events, by admin
Alesha attempts to confront Kori and Kori loses it on her sister’s boyfriend, Robert. Produced by Shirley Vernae Williams
On 02.14.10, In Current Events, by Gerard Spinks
A good sistah needs to be treated as such and I recommend finding new and exciting places to take your date. Do more than dinner and a movie. This gets tired although many women will say that’s enough.
Ok brovas, listen up. Valentines Day is upon us once again and once again I hear all kinds of dating horror stories. Men: listen carefully. Do not focus on buying your lady all kinds of stuff for Valentine’s Day. Instead, find out if your relationship is real. Focus on the relationship and not the purchase of monetary items to woo her.
A woman like’s a man who is communicative and talks about a lot of things with her. Find out who she is and find out what she wants to do. Also, don’t be so willing to risk it all and focus on one woman in the beginning of y’all relationship. Ask me how I know. Lockin’ in one one woman in the beginning of a relationship is relationship suicide. Still pursue her and be romantic but keep pursuing other women as well until you all have established that it’s your two and only you two.
A good sistah needs to be treated as such and I recommend finding new and exciting places to take your date. Do more than dinner and a movie. This gets tired although many women will say that’s enough. It’s not and both of y’all will become bored with each other quickly. Find new stuff to do no matter what city you live in. Do something creative. If you need suggestions, ask a brotha, I’ll help you out.
On 01.28.10, In Current Events, by Gerard Spinks
I used to hate girls. I thought they were just good for stealing your man, and then laughing in your face. I know, I know…a bit dramatic but very true. Throughout my adolescence, I had my fair share of girl groups.
BET Producer Kristen V. Carter
Guest blog post by screen/script writer Kristen V. Carter CEO of Jazzi Entertainment and BET show producer.
I used to hate girls. I thought they were just good for stealing your man, and then laughing in your face. I know, I know…a bit dramatic but very true. Throughout my adolescence, I had my fair share of girl groups. All of the cliques started off like sisterhood societies – sleepovers, secret handshakes, loud negroidian chants, and complete with official names and symbols! But of course as kids change, arguments fly, and hormones rage, those relationships fizzled out faster than…yes, faster than that!
By the time I was 20, I decided “to hell with female friends.” There were a few cool people that I remained friends with through the years but for the most part, I was pretty ashamed of my gender’s catiness and disloyalty. I didn’t understand why most of my friend’s friendships ended because of dudes that are oh so fine in high school but will dry up by the time we graduate from college. Yes, this does happen alot! So I started collecting male friends. Typically, I like(d) being the only female in a group of dudes because they’re generally pretty simple and easy to get along with. I don’t mean simple like dunce simple. I just mean pretty basic in cutting to the chase in regards to feelings, situations, etc. (I’m not sure how basic they are now that I’m a few years wiser but I digress…)
I despised girl groups so much that I avoided them and made fun of them. (I know – real mature, Kris!) Even if the people were cool, I’d always sorta tilt my face to the side and say, “There’s at least one shady B-I in this group…now who is she?!?” But then a strange phenomenon started to occur – as my friend circle started to grow post-college, I not only gained more male friends but I just started meeting really cool people in general. Men and women just not about the okie-doke, just wanting to have fun and be folks. Now, as I think about it in retrospect, I became way more open to sharing who I am as opposed to being on guard that someone’s gonna hurt my feelings or as I said earlier, take my man and run…LOL
A few days ago I bumped into a family member of one of my former friends. For some reason, she still hasn’t gotten over the fact that her niece and I are not friends. But I guess I can understand…leaving a friend behind is like breaking up with the whole family. No, it is breaking up with the whole family so when anyone sees you, they just give you this kinda pouty look like, “Awww, why didn’t you make it work? I’m still mad you aren’t friends.” In previous years, I’d always respond, “Well, tough!” (lol) but there’s no need to be that way anymore. People truly come into your life for a reason, season, or a lifetime and if they are meant to stay or make their way back full circle, they will.
The closer I have become to my friends and cousins, the more I recognize just how important it is to have brotherly and sisterly bonds. Specifically, to be able to laugh at yourself, vent and have sisters give you insight on more mature and womanly situation. Ha. Seriously! So, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU to all the women who have allowed me to burn their ears recently. I believe you know who you are! Thank you for being sisters to me.
Guys, you know I got you on Men’s Day…I seem to have something long winded to say every time that holiday comes around. 
On 01.27.10, In Current Events, by Gerard Spinks
Young men and women looking for love in all the wrong places and the wrong ways. Young women want to be “committed” (whatever that word means at 18 – hmph!) while young men are just putting up with it so they can have someone to poke.
BET Producer Kristen V. Carter
Young men and women looking for love in all the wrong places and the wrong ways. Young women want to be “committed” (whatever that word means at 18 – hmph!) while young men are just putting up with it so they can have someone to poke. Either the guys got weasled into a relationship or they are just going with the flow and wind up shrugging their shoulders about it. Of course there are always the folks just looking to poke and move, and even the ones who do establish some kind of friendship but they end up confused and heartbroken.
Then, the gentlemen have already been hurt, so now they really don’t give an f and have turned into men just looking to poke. And now, there’s this phenomenon of the liberated woman also looking to poke cause they can’t be bothered. This leaves us with a whole lot of poking and not a lot of emotional attachment. A lot of whining and complaining to our friends, but no “stick and stay” kind of bonds.
Everyone is exhausted! And it doesn’t stop there; it just gets progressively worse! The 30-something single women don’t wanna be single. The 30-something single man has taken themselves off the playing field (until they start dating younger). The 20-something year old woman writes off 20-something year old men because those men haven’t dealt with their feelings enough to know what they are actually feeling. The 20-something year old man plays the field because there’s a 20:1 ratio out here, until he eventually gets tired of that and he wants to actually settle down a bit. But then realizes all the late 20, 30-something single women are itching for marriage and babies and that’s too much. And then everyone’s giving ultimatums and ending up broken up anyway.
Gosh, doesn’t that cycle just suck! Do I even wanna get in that? Where do I fall in the mess? Or will I find myself in a different playing field because I’m observing this before jumping in with my eyes closed? This is a never-ending topic…because we are directly and indirectly affected by societal images. We’re internalizing what our family and friends think, we’re constantly replaying our own life experiences, and then finally, we may or may not get to the point where we can point out what we may hope or desire…and how we get there.
Dog on it, learning new people is supposed to be fun! I thought loving and learning is/was natural! When did expectations – we’re gonna jump from point A to X – become the ultimate kill joy?
So here’s what I’m doing cause I’m trying to avoid that ugly rat race. I don’t claim that whole “independent woman” nonsense because I think that’s a total cop out – if you’re about your business, you don’t need to scream it, just do it! I’m learning to listen to men. Ladies, do not go to your female friends to get advice on guys. What the hell kinda sense does that make? Go to the source! And lastly, I try to avoid doing things that would cause me to wanna put pressure on myself or the guy. And that’s it, I’m done. And even in all this, of course I wanna try new things and be on someone’s arm, blah blah, but not with all that other stuff. Jim-mo-ne Pete, who needs that!? Not I!
Kristen V. Carter can be reached and seen at her Jazzi Dreamer website.
On 01.16.10, In Current Events, by admin
This interview is very good and informative for black love and black relationships. Hard to believe some of it but it’s very good.
This interview is very good and informative for black love and black relationships. Hard to believe some of it but it’s very good.
On 10.25.09, In Entrepreneur, by admin
Believe it or not, physical jail starts with mental and emotional destruction of human life. Physical jail is simply an outward expression of an inner jail that lies dormant within a person’s mind. If you are in an emotional/mental jail, your mind will take every conceivable action to put you in a physical jail cell [...]
Believe it or not, physical jail starts with mental and emotional destruction of human life. Physical jail is simply an outward expression of an inner jail that lies dormant within a person’s mind. If you are in an emotional/mental jail, your mind will take every conceivable action to put you in a physical jail cell for a nice long bid.
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To break out of the physical jail or incarceration, we must first deal with the emotional and mental jail that shackles young black youth. Building better prisons is not a crime solving exercise. It deals with the effect but not the cause of emotional jail. Now, I’m not ignorant and I know that our society has real criminals that commit real crimes just because they have the devil within them.
Some people love to shoot, destroy, rape, and kill others. There is nothing that you will ever do to heal and stop a true criminal from being a true thug. I do believe that some people, and I have met many of them when I speak at prisons, love crime. They love hurting people. They have murdered people and will never repent. These people don’t need to break out of jail and they need to sit right where they are and not be allowed to hurt others with heinous crimes.
This is for those who are doing bids and are incarcerated over very poor decisions and very poor actions. You can change. You can do it.
Gerard Spinks is the CEO of Spinks Industries; a web content developer and online marketing agency based in Atlanta, GA USA. You can get started with a comprehensive marketing plan at http://www.spinksindustries.com.
On 10.25.09, In black famous people, by admin
Ok. As young black men, we are in prison in very high numbers. Yes, there is a systematic plan in place to keep these numbers high. Yes, America needs to continue to build America on the backs of slaves and get free labor. Yes, America accepts and wants us in prison. Yes, America plants drugs [...]
Ok. As young black men, we are in prison in very high numbers. Yes, there is a systematic plan in place to keep these numbers high. Yes, America needs to continue to build America on the backs of slaves and get free labor. Yes, America accepts and wants us in prison. Yes, America plants drugs in the community and give it to us freely so that we can get locked up and become a free prison worker to power corporate American greed.
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NO, we don’t have to actively participate. We do not have to be inmates. We do not have to engage in activities that get you a one-way ticket to jail. We can change the situation and be better. Yes, we can. We don’t have to sell and deal drugs on the corner because we feel inferior and feel that we cannot go to college and make it the way other kids can.
Trust me when I tell you that just because someone gives you a brick on the avenue to sell it and make money, that this person is legit. Many times, this is an undercover agent working for the feds who plant drugs in the community in order to test people, let them sell it, and have a sting operation set up to watch the paper trail.
Fast money is the work of the devil. Slow money is the work of champions. You don’t have to make money today just to feel like you’re doing something major. And most times, young cats say that they need to take care of their baby mama and haven’t sent her a dime to take care of the child in years. Stop being a part of a designed plan to keep you handcuffed both physically and mentally.
Gerard Spinks is the CEO of Spinks Industries; a web content developer and online marketing agency based in Atlanta, GA USA. You can get started with a comprehensive marketing plan at http://www.spinksindustries.com.
On 10.25.09, In 1, by admin
Being black in America has proven to be very dangerous and deadly in 2009. High school kids have been killed, athletes have been jailed, and rappers are being put behind bars at a faster pace than ever before. [picapp src="d/0/8/e/Jesse_Jackson_Meets_637a.jpg?adImageId=6620434&imageId=6743712" width="380" height="560" /] Here’s what to do to stay alive and survive in America. Education, [...]
Being black in America has proven to be very dangerous and deadly in 2009. High school kids have been killed, athletes have been jailed, and rappers are being put behind bars at a faster pace than ever before.
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Here’s what to do to stay alive and survive in America. Education, education, education. I cannot say it any clearer. Your opportunities increase exponentially with education. I’m talking about finishing high school with a good grade point average, going on to college and graduating with a Bachelor’s of Science type of degree, and heading on to business school.
No more excuses. There are all types of programs and grants and loans available to get an education today. President Obama has made sure of that. It’s now in the hands of black youth to take action and get educated. This is a state of emergency and must be implemented immediately.
Anyone who lives in the ‘hood should move. I suggest moving as far away from the ghetto as possible as this increases your life expectancy greatly. The ghetto is filled with strife, anger, despair, and destitution. Time for change and time to leave that behind. It’s time for a new way of life and a new glory. Get out of the ‘hood mentality, get educated, and no more excuses. You owe yourself glory and greatness.
Gerard Spinks is the CEO of Spinks Industries; a web content developer and online marketing agency based in Atlanta, GA USA. You can get started with a comprehensive marketing plan at http://www.spinksindustries.com.
