I was talking to a friend on Twitter @Kandacem, a professional black woman in Atlanta who runs her own Event Management and Consulting business. Kandace posted a Tweet about a man who had an interest in her but she had denied him. He then came back around wanting to influence her to change her mind with material possessions.
This interesting state of events begged the question: Do black men think black women can be easily pursuaded with money? Is this the culture that we live in even during a recession? Do black women hold money as a standard and rule for dating first and foremost and then find out who the person is after that?
As a man, I cannot answer this. I can give my opinion but I really need the ladies to answer. I was once dating someone for awhile and I showered her with gifts because I loved to do that. I loved seeing her face light up when I bought her a Louis Vuitton bag from Lenox or some jewelry from Tiffany’s. I must admit, I was very upset when she broke it off with me and I did accuse her of just wanting gifts and material items from me and accepted that while we were dating. I don’t really think that now because I believe in her heart that she’s a great person and not materialistic. Afterall, it was I that got the gifts. She never asked. And I do NOT think all black women just want to date money. I think the realest sistahs want true love and true relationships and want us to be there for them and find a best friend and mate.
A true relationship is like Michelle Obama and President Obama. She rode with him when his car had holes in the floor board!
